When you have children, the twists and turns multiply - with two kids, it seems that it is tenfold! (Don't try using normal math here.) Kids have their individual timetables. One didn't have the desire to truly walk until 14 months, while the other took off running (and hasn't stopped yet!) at 10 months.
All throughout childhood comes school twists, extracurricular turns, hormonal ups and downs, and, of course, lots of drama. Who would have thought that a few packs of Pokemon cards would morph into an obsession with gaming, cosplay, and conventions for both kids?
After all the twists and turns of high school come the twists and turns of college. The bad grades, the good grades, changing majors, moving off campus, jobs, graduation...and the list goes on and on!
When Tyler graduated, moved home, and got his first "big boy" job, I thought the next turn would be him saving enough money to get a nice apartment Ty would level up at the gaming company where he was working. He would eventually meet a nice local girl, and after a long courtship, the two would get married and come to Sunday dinner each week.
Here is where the twist comes in. In this electronic age - and with our son who spends all of his spare time gaming, Ty met a young lady online. This was not the first time. Tyler has had strictly online girlfriends. (Mothers like those!) He had one that turned into about a three year relationship in the real world. But this one lives in another country. No, he wasn't catfished. She came to visit here. I have to say that my husband and I got a good first impression of her. She is very attractive and has a good job. She shares his love of gaming and anime'.
Tyler got his passport and went to visit her. And the two of them decided to get married in her country. I found out from my daughter who found out on Snapchat. Yes, I was hurt. It took me some time to process and deal with this information in my on way and in my own time. It would take about four months for the marriage to be officially registered. His new missus came to visit again, and we were warm and welcoming.
The two of them made plans for Tyler to move to be with his wife. She would be his sponsor and they would consult with an immigration lawyer to obtain citizenship for him. And her Muslim family *Ty's wife is not a practicing Muslim) planned a big wedding for them. Since we do not have passports, we were not able to attend. They do want to have a third ceremony in the U.S. at some point.
Ty should be approved to start working in his new home in July. He is learning to navigate new streets, new weather, new currency, and more. He is learning that Daddy can't run over to fix his car. He is doing all of the laundry and cleaning, and cooking a little. Hopefully, our little bird is going to learn to fly- and hopefully, not into a tree....
They plan to come back here for Christmas, so until then, phone calls and video chats will have to do.
